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We’ve been dishing about orgasms for almost 15 years — they’re the subject of at least half the questions we receive from readers — but even we are constantly learning new things about how orgasms work. Here are five juicy orgasm tidbits you may not know!
1. Men Fake, Too
Sure, women fake orgasms — we knew that even before Meg Ryan showed us how. In fact, over 65 percent of women have faked an orgasm at least once. But they’re not the only ones! Research shows that about 28 percent of men have faked it, too. (We’re guessing that in most of those situations the man was too drunk to finish and his partner was too drunk to notice him hastily disposing of an empty condom.)
2. She Might Cross the Finish Line Too Soon
Speaking of male vs. female orgasms: men aren’t the only ones who sometimes come sooner than they’d like. Sure, it’s primarily a male concern, but we’ve heard from multiple women who wish they could stretch out the period before their climax. We know: It kind of sounds like those women who complain about not being able to gain weight no matter what they eat. But for some ladies, premature orgasm is a genuine problem.
3. Orgasm Science Is Full of Good News
How cool is this: the vagus nerve, which is involved in the orgasm, bypasses the spinal cord. As researchers (including G-spot goddess Dr. Beverly Whipple) have recently discovered, this means that paraplegics can still climax, despite having little or no sensation or movement below the waist.
4. Monogamy Is Good for the Orgasm Gap
Here’s good news for all you fans of long-term monogamy: As a relationship progresses, the orgasm gap between men and women closes. In casual hookups, or at the very beginning of a sexual relationship, women climax only about a third as often as their male partners. But in serious relationships, the rate for women climbs to about 80 percent as often as men, aww yeah. (No wonder we hear from so many men who tell us they can’t keep up with their partner’s libido — once a woman figures out how to climax with her guy, she wants sex more than ever!)
5. Kegels Are for Everyone
Doing kegel exercises on a regular basis can lead to more intense orgasms for women and men. (Men who kegel can also get stronger erections and better staying power, FYI.) The basic regimen, for both sexes, is squeeze, hold, release, repeat. Here are detailed how-to guides on kegels for him and for her.
Internationally respected veteran sexperts Em & Lo have penned seven books together, including their latest, 150 Shades of Play, which has won praise from icons like sex educator Betty Dodson and Time columnist Joel Stein. They dish daily about sex, love, and everything in between at EMandLO.com. Follow them on Twitter @emandlo.