For those of you who are soon-to-be or recently engaged, after the initial Instagram posts and Veuve Clicquot toasts wear thin, you are probably ready to book a venue, secure a wedding planner, and buy your dream dress. But before you dive deep into the nuptial shopping, outlining, and proposals, first things first: You need to sort out who is paying for what. And that can be quite a delicate matter.Traditionally, the bride’s family assumes most of the financial costs associated with a wedding, including the planner, invitations, dress, ceremony, and reception, according to Lizzie Post, cohost of the Awesome Etiquette Podcast and great-great-granddaughter of Emily Post. “It’s harder to think about this now, and I am a feminist, but historically it has to do with the ancient practice of a bride’s family giving a dowry to the groom’s for assuming the ‘burden’ of a bride,” she says. “In Victorian times that changed a bit to giving a trousseau, which was a year’s worth of clothing and home items in addition to paying up-front costs.” The groom’s family, for their part, typically pays for all costs associated with the rehearsal dinner and honeymoon, and the officiant, if he or she is of the groom’s mother and father’s choosing.
Who Should Pay for the Wedding?Archetypes Editors
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